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“How Hard is it to Grieve?” (Excerpt from Self-Help Book, “Suicidal, NOT: Maximize Your Mental Health – Volume One) by R.K.B.

“The first step toward healing is acceptance. From there, you must grieve, but on the path toward moving forward…”

You and Grief
This isn’t an easy topic to write about, I’ll be honest. It is a hard one, because it is something that I still struggle with a great deal. So, you (reader), are pushing me to heal in this area as I write. Thank you.
Are you struggling with grief as well? Have you lost someone or something, and are having trouble coming to grips with it? I know that for me, personally, I still struggle with the loss of many close family and friends. One minute they are here, and the next they are gone to never come back. In the past, I had a horrible time coping. I’ve tried it all. Alcohol, sex, pills anything to take the pain away. However, no amount of booze, Xanax or penis was ever enough to compensate for how I felt inside. Then, I realized that me drowning in my sorrows won’t bring these people, material things or even jobs I’ve lost back. I had to realize that though I am feeling loss and pain, I must push forward. I can remember them, honor them and cherish the memories, but ultimately, I have to move on. It will not be easy, but…
if I can do it, so can you.
Believe this to be true, every single step of the way.
“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.”
Richard Bach
Applying the Principle
GOD doesn’t take our loved ones or prized possessions away from us to hurt us. GOD loves us. However, nothing will last forever. That is why time is so very precious, and we must cherish all that we have. Sometimes, GOD takes material things or ideal situations from us to teach us something, to get our attention, or to save us from dangers that we might not even see. When our loved ones pass on, it isn’t GOD trying to snatch them out of our lives. Yet, it might feel like it. It might hurt right down to the core. We might be angry, confused and not understanding how GOD could allow it to happen. However, by utilizing our faith and valuing our time (understand how the themes of this book can be put to work here), we CAN work through our grief. We CAN be strong through our pain.
We CAN heal.
Thus, we will always remember but we can eventually, move on.
It is something that we wish we had completely figured out, but many of us don’t even know how to start. Grieving is a process, and it happens at your own pace. Take as much time as you need. In life, any kind of change or loss can be uncomfortable, confusing and/or painful. Whether it’s a job loss, the loss of a prized house or car, or even the loss of a loved one/friend. The first step toward healing is acceptance. From there, you must grieve, but on the path toward moving forward.
Allow yourself to feel it completely, but with acceptance comes the strength to push along no matter what comes in life. As much as it hurts, (and I know you do not want to hear this) loss IS a part of life. We all will experience it.
Feel the pain fully, accept it, and then move on.
silhouette young women were imprisoned on the island alone, pray
So, choose one of the following writing prompts or do as many as you like:
Describe at least one thing that you need to let go of or move on from and why this is important to your health.
In what ways do you need more peace in your life right now?
Write at least 20 things that help to calm you down when you are feeling either worried or stressed.
The biggest lessons I’ve learned from my anxiety are…
Piecing Things Together
Grief can be processed in many ways. Some people choose happiness in spite of it, some question things because of it and some suppress it altogether. Through losing loved ones, significant others, money and even my mind at times, I have learned that life truly does go on. It is important for us to choose happiness, but also to be human and feel our losses so that we can move on.
We have to be unafraid to question the unknown, but continue to live fully, regardless…
Love what you’ve read so far?

Until next time ❤


R.K.B. is an award winning self-published Author, Poet and Entrepreneur from Detroit, Michigan.

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7 replies on ““How Hard is it to Grieve?” (Excerpt from Self-Help Book, “Suicidal, NOT: Maximize Your Mental Health – Volume One) by R.K.B.”

I feel that once you land things will change.

I also had a friend that went to India for a few months and came back with a brand new mindset. They were depressed before going but had a fear of poverty that motivated them to new heights in business upon return. She started make over 100k after that trip.

Sometimes perspective can change everything but you can’t gain perspective without exposure to something uncomfortable.

Just a thought

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Thank you for sharing this book and your blog. Grief is so painful it can break you. It broke me. Twice actually and it was the second one that got me so broken that I used that pain to give me this massive motivation to take the world on. When you feel that much pain you can look at things that you used to be scared of and say. If I can get through what I’ve been through then nothing can hurt me. Thank you so much for sharing.

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