So, how important is alone time to you?
In 2018, I tried to kill myself seven times. Yes, seven. And each time, I was all by myself.
Some might say that because of that, it is not best for someone like me to be by myself too much, but…with all my anxiety that comes from the outside world at times, I have found peace in solo tranquility through meditation, yoga, prayer, painting and aromatherapy – all alone and in the comforts of my own home.
Many people get confused at that, and can’t always understand me.
How much time do you spend by yourself?
Would you consider this time to be helpful and/or healthy for your well-being?
Or maybe, lonely…and sometimes, scary?
If you said, BOTH, or, “all of the above,” to my question: trust me, I get you.
It really just depends; people like us have to take it not only day by day, but second by second.
And not many people get that, either.
So, IS there a real difference between alone-time and isolation for a Bipolar?
How can we make sure to KNOW that difference at all times for our own safety?
I have experienced the highest of highs and lowest of lows all alone, so sometimes, I wonder if I can ever really tell them apart, especially when I have no one to help me see, think and feel with a clear perspective.
But through it all, I have grown in my coping skills, thankfully – so, here are 5 questions to ask yourself, to protect your peace during alone time, and to also be cautious of alone-time morphing into isolation, and see what might work best for you.
Just ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you ignore the phone calls of close relatives, friends and/or loved ones during your alone-time? If so, how often and why?
- Do you shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, cook, clean and manage other household duties and self-care during this alone-time period? If not, how often do you do this and why?
- Do you sleep for long periods of time or go without sleep for long periods of time during this alone-time? Why? (You probably already know what I am going to say here, but keep reading anyway)!
- Do you watch stimulate yourself with a lot of emotional and/or negative or depressing media during this alone-time period? If so, how often and why? (i.e sad/depressing/violent tv, youtube videos, social media; etc).
- Do you avoid your responsibilities during this alone-time period? If so, how often do you do this and why?
Let me know YOUR experience in the comments!
Share what works best for you, and what you try to avoid for your own health and well-being.
There will be more on this topic soon, but first, I really want to spark a conversation on a topic that can sometimes be difficult to explain or discuss, especially for me, personally.
Let’s be open! ❤ Until next time.
R.K.B. is an award winning self-published Author, Poet and Entrepreneur from Detroit, Michigan.
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